Choose a Therapist Who Has the Right Attitude to be a Skilled Couples Therapist2/3rds of Marriage Counselors are "Neutral" on Divorce? Really?A recent survey of clinical members of the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy found that nearly two-thirds said that they are neutral on the subject of marriage and divorce. This may be fashionable to try to stay neutral, but it is hardly a good attitude for effective couples therapy.The Marriage Counselor Should be the Last One in the Room Encouraging Divorce. The reasons are many but here are a few:1.Divorce dramatically impacts everyone in a family. While it was once a popular cliche to argue that if the parents are happily divorced, the kids will do fine this turns out to be a more self-serving notion than fact. Research tells us that it takes two years before children adjust to their parents divorce, and some percentage of children never do. The average household with children lose half of their incomes after divorce. This, alone, should give a reason to pause.2.Marital Unhappiness Can Fluctuate over Time It also assumes that marital unhappiness is a permanent state, not fluctuating over time. Research tells a different tale.See how Dr. Phillips can help change your life.